Dear Wives

I recently watched a video on Facebook of a pregnant woman bashing her husband because he got credit for being there for her when she had pregnancy appointments. She was a comedian so i know its her job to make fun, and say stuff to make people laugh but instead of making me laugh it made me think... a lot! 

It made me think about how many times we take our husbands for granted, and for the thing they do that we think "Well yea they NEED to do that!" but we never say thank you, or tell them how much it means for them to do that. 

I wanted to tell her something, and i think its something that we all (including me) need to hear now and again. Ready?

Hey Wife,

You recently found out your pregnant and your hormones are CRAZY, but did you ever imagine going through those mood swings without someone to run to the grocery store for you and grab those blueberry muffins you love? Or rub your back when it got sore from that extra weight you've started to gain? Imagine going to ALL your hospital visits alone, your ultrasounds would just be you talking to the nurse about how excited you are, instead of you talking to your husband about baby names and nursery plans! 

You would either have to paint the nursery, assemble the crib and mobile all by yourself while your pregnant or just give up because its more than you can handle. If your husband was there, he would assemble the crib, paint and even re-paint the room if you asked him too, and even help you pick up a dresser you found on Craigslist. If you were alone, none of that would most likely get done, unless you had some pretty great friends. 

You wouldn't have someone to hold onto when you got braxton hicks, or when those real contractions started. There wouldn't be anyone to text you constantly asking if you were in labor, or tell you how pretty your stretch marks are, or share the joys of feeling the baby move in your belly. 

There would be no one there to Walk you around the hospital for three hours while you dilate, or sleep next to you on an uncomfortable hospital bed while you wait and wait for the nurse to say "Your ready!"  

You would only have the nurses and the doctor there to "encourage" you while you push the baby out, and it would only be you there all alone to share the joys of holding that precious new baby. 

Yes there are several times when husbands can annoy or irritate us, and even get credit for stuff we don't think they should, but here's the deal. 

Now days 20 to 30 % of men leave their wives in general, but 30 to 40% of men cheat or leave their wives while they are pregnant!! That's why nurses are so impressed with husbands that are actually BEING a husband!

If you are a lady who has a husband that takes the time to come to appointments, or spend time doing things to help you. If you have a husband that loves you so much and shows you that love so much that it can be smothering at times, be thankful!!! Don't push them away like they are the bane of your existence, don't make them feel like their love means nothing, or its something that's expected of them! Because expectations in a marriage can make that marriage crumble! Your husband is beating statistics, he is loving you and only you throughout this time of immense change! You should be so thankful for him and you should even brag to the nurses "He is a wonderful husband for taking time off work to come to this appointment!" Even IF he just sits there playing games on his phone while you get checked out (which who wants to watch that anyways), he is there and he is showing his love for you! 

Be thankful wife, you have a husband who loves you, and treats you like a prized jewel! Don't treat him like he doesn't matter, because you could be doing this all on your own! 

Love your husband, because that's what we are supposed to do! 

1 John 4:8 He that loveth not knoweth not God; for God is love

Sincerely,

Someone just like you